Happy Mother’s Day


Mother’s Day became an official holiday in the United States in 1914 when the second Sunday of May was declared a “nationally recognized day to honor mothers everywhere.” The original woman, Anna M. Jarvis, who fought tirelessly to make Mother’s Day a national holiday, later fought against the same day and the commercialism that started to accompany it. I find this so fascinating simply because she was appalled by the commercialism – and this was in the 1930’s! Imagine what she would think today.

While I love the idea of having a day just for Mother’s. I really, really hate the fact that it is forced in your face for nearly the entire month beforehand. Hallmark commercials, ridiculous flower prices, even Target has giant “Don’t forget Mom” posters. And what I really cringe at are the jewelry store commercials. Because don’t you know – I will not feel loved if I don’t get a $2,000 pair of diamond earrings! It really does simply cheapen the whole idea of the day.

I want it to just be a sweet, peaceful day spent with family where everyone just makes sure that Mom knows she is appreciated and loved. A couple of extra “thank-yous.” Maybe a “you’re the best mommy in the world” thrown in there somewhere. Really, that is all we moms need.

Alright, and maybe a little breakfast and giggles brought to me in bed. That would be okay, too.

So in the spirit of the true meaning of the day, I thought I’d compose a list of my “thank yous” to the Moms in my life.

To my mom-in-law: Thank you for being such a terrific “2nd” mom. Your kind and generous spirit is more than most women ever dream of in a mother-in-law, and not only do I NOT have to wish for it, I get a glimpse of it every time we talk. Thank you for being a loving Grandma to the girls and really making an effort to “know” them and what is going on in our lives. And, most importantly, thank you for giving all of us Jamie, and for helping mold him into the amazing man and father he is.

To my sister, Meesh: Thank you for being mom to my three beautiful nieces. The love I have for those three girls is a (very, very) close second to that I have for my own girls. Thank you for listening to my parenting “chaos” when you are at any given moment in about three times that amount! But you never try to shut me up or judge, you assure me that it is all normal. The girls are normal. My feelings are normal. I will never forget right after I had Em, we were at your house, and I was very close to losing it and you very calmly reassured me that that was how I was supposed to feel. You were so older sister-like at that moment, letting me cry on your shoulder, and it was such a nice feeling. I knew that if you had already been there, done it that it would all be okay. I know I have said this before, but part of the reason I wanted 2 girls is so that Emma would be able to experience having a sister, because it is such a special, amazing part of my life.

To my sister-in-law, Amy: Thank you for allowing me to be there when you first became a mom! It really was one of the most amazing things I ever witnessed, and such a different view than when I was in the same position. Thank you, too for our two nephews – we know how to make a nice even family – we get 2 boys and 2 girls to love!

To my best friend, Kimmer: Thank you for allowing me to (endlessly) complain and go on (and on and on) about the “problem” of the week, and for always having a kind, reassuring word, or a “been there, done that – I promise it will get better.” Who knew when we met that first day of college what our future had in store? The things we would together go through? Or that we would end up friends for life? I feel privileged and honored that we know more about each other’s children than some people even know about their own. Thank you so much for being a tremendous “Mom Rock” for me to lean on.

To my best friend, Kim: Thank you for being there during Em and Lauren’s precious first year when we were just trying to figure out the whole “mother thing” together for the first time. I loved every minute, even the tough ones, of our “mommy-ing” together. Even though our time together as neighbors was so short, we laid the such a great groundwork for an amazing friendship. It makes me so happy to hear Emma still calling Lauren her best friend – there is definitely no “out of sight, out of mind” going on here in Emma’s heart, or mine.

To my new mommy friend, Michelle: Thank you so much for the complete sanity check during the last six months. I really think it was fate that day in the gym when your little Emma offered my Emma a rice cracker. Somebody, somewhere knew I needed a friend like you to commiserate with – and the fact that we are on parallel timelines with our kids, I swear it had to be some divine intervention somewhere. You are such a great mom, and more importantly such a great friend. Thank you for always “seeing it”, when I’ve had a rough day/night/week. And knowing how to fix it.

To my Aunt Vicki: Thank you for being my biggest (and my family’s biggest) cheerleader. Your constant love and reassurances that I am doing a “good job” as a mom means so much to me. Thank you so much for all you do.

And finally. The best for last. Well, actually I kept putting this one off because really how do you really ever say “thank you” to your own Mom? Especially after becoming a mom and knowing that it is the best, toughest, most rewarding, least-appreciated job in the world? You can’t. You just have to say –

Dear Mom: Thank you for loving me unconditionally. Thank you for being there when I needed you the most. Thank you for always remembering the best moments and for forgetting our not-so good moments. Thank you for knowing when I am asking for advice, and knowing when I just want you to listen. Thank you for all of this, but most of all, thank you for giving me the strength, courage and tools to make me be the best Mom I can be.

Love to all of you (and Moms everywhere) today and always.


5 Responses to “Happy Mother’s Day”

  1. 1 Colleen May 13, 2007 at 4:57 pm

    Such lovely thank yous! Happy Mother’s Day!

  2. 2 Aunt Laura May 14, 2007 at 4:44 am

    What wonderful Mother’s Day comments. You are all the things mothers want in their daughters. How loving!

  3. 3 Kimmer May 14, 2007 at 3:07 pm

    thanks, Care — I needed that

  4. 4 Meesh May 15, 2007 at 2:59 am

    Okay…note to all moms/sisters everywhere. When you love your sister as much as I do, and you read the line “I thought I’d compose a list of my “thank yous” to the Moms in my life” not knowing that you will be involved. DO NOT READ ON ANY FURTHER …AT WORK! Here I sit, completely surprised that my sister would think to add me to her list, BAWLING at my desk.

    It is you, my best friend and sister, that I needed to thank on mother’s day for loving me, listening to me, cherishing me, and most of all for being my best friend. You truly are the greatest and I thank God daily that HE gave me you. You rock! Besides, if I didn’t have you, mom might STILL be trying to explain the birds and the bees without the creative drawings that you made. (I still haven’t forgotten that. Now that we have our girls, do you think you could recreate them?) 🙂 I love you Bean. See you in a few weeks.

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