I think one of the hardest things about parenting is the constant second guessing of all the big decisions we end up making for our kids.
Now, I think J. and I are pretty smart people. I read a lot of parenting books and articles. I seek out advice from parents who have “been there.” And with some things, it is even our second time around on the same issues. I feel like I shouldn’t be constantly just “winging” it around here. But we really do just make it up as we go along most of the time.
And even harder than the second guessing, is the guilt when you feel like you might have “guessed” wrong. Did your decision cause more damage? Will the child be scarred for life?
Which brings us to this –
I put Addie’s crib back together this afternoon.
We have had a rough few nights, NO naps for the past 4 days, and a very tired, very unhappy little girl. You know when kids are so tired that they get falling-down clumsy? Well, we’ve had quite a few boo-boos around here the past few days, and lots and lots of tears. Oh, and the sassiness. That may just be because she is 2, or trying to keep up with Emma, but “Sweet Sassy Mollassey!”
And, no. It is not that I’m just sad that my baby is getting older, or that I want to keep her little. But she is really going through a lot right now with the whole potty training, and the turning 2, and I think the move to the “big girl” bed was just a little premature.
Not to mention the fact that I love having a routine, happy girl. I love sleeping through (and her sleeping through!) the night. And I need her to nap so I can work in the afternoon.
So what happened when we got the bed back together, you ask?
Addie was beside herself with excitement. She kept wanting to get into the crib to “hang” out. She took a 2-hour nap for Denise this afternoon. She did put up a little fuss at bedtime, but she is now happily sleeping as I type. And I expect I will not hear from her until 7:30 or 8:00 tomorrow morning.
So although it feels like a step back, I think it is the right decision for everyone involved. We’ll try again in a few months.
Then again…who knows what would have happened if we had just stuck it out for a few more days?
And the second guessing begins. Again.